Category: Mom

  • Big Changes + momAgenda = Happiness

    So you may have noticed that the web address has changed. We can now be found at LifewithDylan.com and that’s just the first step. There are some exciting things in the works, but we can’t say just yet.

    Besides taking this mom blog to a whole new level, I am up to my eyeballs with Shel Cosmetics. Don’t get me wrong, I love staying busy and the business is doing great. Busy Mom means the company is successful! Needless to say, I am spending more time on the computer than I did when I was in school.

    So along with scheduling appointments, vacations, shipping out orders, getting Dylan to and from summer day camps, and preparing for the Fall marketing campaigns I am glad that there is one thing that can keep me sane.

    My beloved momAgenda

    I have always used the Personal Portfolio with a spiral refill and love the soft leather with pockets and snap closure to make sure all my papers stay inside, but I might change things up this year. The new Faux Crocodile momAgenda Desktop in Teal Blue seems to be calling my name every time I see it.

    image from momAgenda.com

    For those of you who are not familiar with momAgenda, this amazing product was created by a mom … for moms! Every detail and every event you can possibly imagine is part of this organizational system. Vacations, gift guides, favorite places, holidays, mom-friendly web address listings, just about anything is here at your fingertips! And they makes it so simple for you …

    image from momAgenda.com

    Thank you momAgenda for making my crazy, chaotic life a happy one!

  • A Mother’s Love

    Eight years ago today, at 12:10 am, I gave birth to the most beautiful 8 lb. 6 oz. 20 1/2 inches long baby boy.

    When I heard your first cry, when I held you in my arms, when I saw your face …
    Nothing else mattered.

    “It was the middle of the night and I had been awake for over 24 hours … but we were finally alone … just me and my son. All I could do was gaze at you in pure amazement. So this is the little guy who has been kicking me and pushing on my bladder. For months now I have imagined you smiling your Mommy’s smile, gazing at me with eyes like mine. As I held you in my arms I saw that you were more perfect than anything I had ever imagined! I want to be the one to nourish you, protect you, comfort you. I want to make your world a beautiful place just like you have for me.” – from Dylan’s Baby Book

    Nothing can break the bond of a Mother’s love … it only gets stronger with each passing day.

    Happy Birthday my sweet boy. You have given me the best 8 years of my life.

    I love you.

  • Missing My Grandpa

    Not really sure what brought his on. Maybe it was Dylan bringing home the worm farm from Cub Scouts or maybe it is because of all the talk about BBQ’s. Either way, both make me think of my Grandpa. He was not the typical Grandpa who gave hugs, but rather the one who showed his affection by putting me in playful headlock. He taught me how to fish and I remember playing with his big old bucket of earthworms when I was a small child. This would make my Grandma so mad. He taught me how to build the perfect BBQ with charcoal, newspaper, and small pieces of wood … layers were the key according to Grandpa. Oh how I loved watching him BBQ. He made the best BBQ chicken ever!

    Growing up without a father in my life I guess I clung to my Grandpa for the male figure I needed so much as child. Like me and Dylan, my Mom was a single mother who worked full-time and I went to my Grandma’s house every day after school. My grandparents meant the world to me. Funny how when I think about, life has come full circle with my parents and Dylan.

    When my Mom re-married, I was 10 years old … but never lost that connection with my Grandpa. His funeral was the hardest thing I have ever had to do and sad to say, I have not been back to visit him often enough. I guess it’s just too hard for me.

    As I write this, I can feel the tears welling up in my eyes. Being the first grandchild of many, I have always felt a special connection to my grandparents. I so wanted my Grandpa to see his first great-grandson. I am thankful that he was able to attend my wedding and in an odd sort of way, thankful that he was ailing when I went through my divorce. This way, he did not need to see the pain I went through. I remember when I was pregnant thinking if only Grandpa were here.

    Sad to say, I have no pictures of me with my Grandpa. I will have to ask my Mom if she has any. If she does, they are probably very old. He was not one for taking pictures, just as he was not one for showing his emotions or saying I Love You. I remember seeing him in the hospital during his final days and I leaned down to give him a kiss. He hugged me and said, “I Love You Michelle.” Wow, this coming from the man who only gave playful headlocks with a ‘hey you, glad you could make it.’

    This is the only picture I could find of my Grandpa. It was taking at my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary in May 1996. My grandfather passed in September 2001.

    Friends, take those pictures … no matter how much others say no or I didn’t do my hair. Take those pictures. Because one day, a picture is all that you will have left with your memories of earthworms and BBQ’s.

    This picture of Grandpa’s burial site was taking in 2005, the last time I went to visit. Before that I went one time when I was pregnant to talk to him and introduce my unborn child to him. I think it’s time Dylan and I took a trip to see my Grandpa. It’s time Dylan starts learning some of things his great-grandpa would have enjoyed teaching him and telling him some of the stories about me and my Grandpa.

    Maybe, just maybe the earthworms coming home with Dylan was my Grandpa’s way of saying ‘hey, glad you could make it’ …

  • Another Milestone in Life

    grad·u·a·tion (noun) – the award or acceptance of an academic degree or diploma.


    com·mence·ment (noun) –  the ceremonies or the day for conferring degrees or diplomas.


    I don’t remember my Kindergarten graduation, but know that I had one. I vaguely remember my 6th grade promotion and feeling excited about starting Junior High, yet at the same time worried about changing classrooms and remembering where everything was. 


    Junior High graduation. I was cool. Excited. No longer did I have to say I was in the “blank” grade. Now I was a Freshman. At the time it was great … until I got there and quickly learned I was at the bottom of the bunch. Then a Sophomore. 


    OK, getting better. Now there were people below me. I knew my way around the school and thought this isn’t so bad. Junior year … driving, braces off, had my share of heartache. However, I survived and was ready to hold the coveted title of “Senior”


    High School graduation. I did it. Diploma in hand. I survived the heartache, the tests, the homework, the teachers I didn’t like, the snobby girls, and all that we know as high school. A sense of accomplishment. 


    I was free. Never to do another report (as they are called in high school), no more tests, and no more homework. The world was my oyster to do whatever I pleased. I was not college bound. Didn’t care to be. I wanted to live life.


    Well, after the harsh reality hit I took a few courses at the local Junior College. Not happy. Didn’t know what I wanted to be. What I wanted to do with my life. All I knew was I loved kids and I wanted to be a Mom someday. 


    Flash forward 15 years and I’m a Mom. A single mom. Not quite what I had planned. Happy.


    Flash forward another 5 years. I am now 38 years old with a 5 year old son. Working full-time and raising him the best I can. Haven’t touched a textbook or written a paper (as they are called in college) for almost 20 years. I was a high school graduate … what more did I need?


    I needed to finish college. 
    Not for a job. 
    Not because my parents told me to.
    Not for more pay. 


    But because I wanted to do it. I wanted to be able to tell my son that his Mom was a College Graduate. I wanted that sense of accomplishment and self-worth. To tell my son that no matter what, no matter how hard life is, now matter how many times you feel like giving up … anything is possible.


    Flash forward another 2 1/2 years. Now 23 years since I graduated high school and received that coveted “diploma”. At age 41, I will be walking in a commencement ceremony tomorrow as my family and son witness me receiving not a diploma, but a college degree. 
    Bachelor of Science in Psychology.


    Excited. Yes. 
    Scared. Yes. 


    Am I dreaming? No.
    Will I ever stop learning? No.


    Surreal. Yes. 
    Proud. Yes. 
    Accomplished. Absolutely.

  • Just Another Day at the Zoo

    When I asked Dylan what he wanted to do he excitedly said, San Diego Zoo! Life has been so crazy with work and school that we haven’t had time to visit the animals he loves so much. So it was up early and off to San Diego for the day.

    Dylan has been going to the San Diego Zoo since he was only 9 months old and he can tell you every nook and cranny of this place. If you get lost, he will tell you where to go. If you have a question about an animal, he will give you the answer.

    After walking through the entrance it was business as usual … first stop, the Reptile House. We have seen this Komodo Dragon at least 25 times, but he begged me to take a picture because it was “close up” and the Galapagos Turtles were just too cute. Mommy and baby … but that baby was HUGE!

    Next, he wanted to see the Polar Bears. Now, for those of you who have been to the San Diego Zoo, you know what a hike it is to get to those darn animals … and if you are lucky, you will actually get to see them doing something other than sleeping. I have been begging Dylan to ride the Skyfari for years now and he keeps saying he is afraid because it is so high. Well, this time he decided to take a chance. Maybe it was the bribery that he would have to walk all the way up there, or maybe the thought of getting off right at the Polar Bear exhibit. Whatever it was, I was just happy I didn’t have to walk there!

    Guess what? He loved it!

    …and the Polar Bear wasn’t sleeping!

    Ok, so Dylan is almost 8 years old … but when you are at the San Diego Zoo it is tradition to climb on every statue and take a picture. The life-size book about how the Polar Bears came to live at the zoo was pretty cool too and Dylan stood there turning the pages and reading every word.

    Now it was time to make our way down through the other exhibits. So many animals to see and so little time. Well, we had all day … it was really a matter of how long our feet could walk.

    There is a rock next to the River Otter exhibit that Dylan has been climbing on since he was 2 years old and he always insists on taking a picture here. He climbs up and strikes a pose. Such a goofball! One of these days I should line up all the pictures to see how much he has grown, but if I do that I will realize my little boy is growing up too fast!

    Mommy and Baby Hippo

    Yes, that orange blur is a Tiger!

    They had just fed the Lions and now they are resting.

    Today was an amazing day. I got to spend real quality time with Dylan with no agenda, no place to be, and tons of laughs. I watched him run and play, absorb more information about animals (if that’s even possible), and best of all … I got to hold his hand. It has been so long since Dylan has even wanted to hold my hand when I try to take his hand in mine. But today, today Dylan kept reaching for my hand. Best feeling ever!

    My little chunky monkey is all grown up. Now he plays with the big boys. However, he will still hold my hand, at least for a little while.
  • Mom and Dylan Aced the Final Paper!

    Doing the happy dance all over the living room with Dylan. The final grades have been posted and I will graduate with a 3.6 GPA. Thanks to my little environmentalist/animal lover and his awesome choice of movies for my final college paper! Perfect score!

    Professors comment “Excellent analysis of this film. Your comments were thorough with good examples to support them. Grade 100%


    Film Critique Disney Oceans
    Michelle Fryer



    Film Critique Disney Oceans
    I have seen some amazing documentaries about the ocean and the life that lives beneath the water’s surface, but Disneynature Oceans is in a league of its own. Yes, there are whales breaching, dolphins leaping at sunset, penguins walking in groups, and the solitary polar bear amid the lone Arctic; however, this ecological documentary film takes the viewer far beyond the common ocean creatures. Directors Jacques Perrin and Jacques Cluzaud did a spectacular job of capturing the vast undersea world and taking the audience along on a ride of a lifetime.
    The fact that 75% of the earth is covered by water and we know more about outer space is astonishing. Disneynature Oceans takes the audience far beyond the ocean’s surface and the pounding waves to uncover the mysteries and hidden treasures that call the ocean their home. Released on Earth Day 2010, this film combines the subtle message of environmental awareness with outstanding cinematography, a melodic musical score by Bruno Coulais, and an almost poetic-like narration by Pierce Brosnan.
    With the exception of the beginning and ending scene where we see a young boy standing on the shore looking out into the vast waters of the ocean, this film is set entirely in the ocean. At first, the narration of Pierce Brosnan is strong, but quickly becomes a peaceful ambient backdrop to the main focus of the oceanic creatures. The films composition is solely the marine life who call the ocean their home with little if any background images. The use of underwater cameras and advanced technology with a new construction of digital cameras captures images that most people will never see firsthand. 
    In one of the opening scenes, Pierce Brosnan is narrating about the vast world below the water’s surface as the camera zooms in on the ocean from outer space and the audience sees what appear to be stars in the night sky. As if magically transformed before our eyes, these stars dissolve into small specs in the water and then the audience realizes what we are seeing is a school of moon jellyfish gliding through the depths of the ocean. The lighting from the sun above the water enhances the transparency of jellyfish and gives way to their delicate bodies and intricate tentacles. Without narration, the silence becomes meditative and the soft sound of violins adds to the sheer beauty of these creatures.
    The filming of Oceans is so spectacular that the audience becomes mesmerized by the images of rays soaring through the clear blue waters like a kite and the magnificent blanket octopus flowing feely life a scarf blowing in the wind. The gentle humpback whales swimming gracefully through the water and then breaching above the surface to show their massive size and strength is awe inspiring. As a pod of spinner dolphins swim through the water, the specialized underwater cameras follow alongside of them and with what seems like one swift movement the dolphins are leaping and spinning in the air only to fall elegantly back into the water. The editing of the underwater camera footage and the above water camera footage flow seamlessly together and allow the audience to feel as if they are swimming right alongside the dolphins.
    One of my favorite scenes occurs when we see a school of common dolphins swimming swiftly underwater in a carefully executed pattern to trap sardines. The camera then cuts to a flock of sea birds flying overhead and the orchestra music begins to play. As the tempo of the music begins to escalate, the sea birds began to dive into the water as if they were torpedoes. The musical score is in perfect rhythm with the sea birds as they hit the water and faint sounds of water splashes are heard. As the camera cuts quickly between the birds diving into the water from above and the underwater feeding of the birds and the dolphins from below, the orchestra music becomes louder as sharks and a blue whale joins in. The musical score is a carefully played out concert moving in rhythm with the waves, dolphins, sea birds, and whale as this feeding frenzy occurs above and below the water’s surface.
    One of my favorite uses of sound in the film is the use of silence. With the exception of the soft-spoken poetic narration of Pierce Brosnan, which is intermittently heard throughout the film, the only sounds heard are those of the ocean and the life beneath the surface. The directors understand the importance of watching a mother humpback whale swim with her calf and hearing nothing but the sounds of the humpback’s song. To show how fierce the ocean can be and the dangers that face some of the creatures like the penguins in Antarctica, the sound of the waves crashing against the rocks is the only sound needed as we watch the penguins struggle to ride the wave up and jump to the safety of dry land.
    I will admit at times I questioned the camera angles and how some of the footage was possible. In particular, the scene where a great white shark is within inches of the camera lens as it is filmed from head to tail. Just as the camera turns around the other side of the shark, another underwater camera can be seen in the distance. The point of view now changes to that of a wide angle lens as we see the view from this other camera. Indeed, there is a diver with a camera, only inches away from a great white shark. As Jacques Cluzaud states on the official Disney website (n.d.), “We took the time to allow the animals to invite us in. We waited to become a fish among fish” (Production Notes, para. 1). The wait resulted in what I consider to be one of the best documentaries I have seen about the world’s oceans. I have always had a love for the ocean and I believe that the combination of outstanding cinematography, flawless editing, and a powerfully moving musical score make Disneynature Oceans a must see for everyone.
     Disneynature Oceans is a tranquil meditation of aquatic life set to rhythmic music with small glimpses of the harsh reality some creatures face with the perils of being at the lower end of the food chain. Filmed in five oceans all across the globe, this film will inspire the audience to learn more about the mysteries of the deep and ignite a love for the underwater world. I give Disneynature Oceans four out of four stars.
    References
    Disney. (n.d.). Disneynature Oceans. Retrieved from http://disney.go.com/disneynature/oceans/
  • Cupcakes Galore

    Take 3 pounds of gold buttercream frosting, 2 pounds of cardinal fondant, 5 dozen devils food chocolate cupcakes, and one dedicated baker … what do you get?

    You guessed it USC Trojan cupcakes! My biggest order to date and I had so much fun making them. When Dylan asked how many I was making I said 60 … his response … can you make 62 so I can have some?  Gotta love his way of thinking.

  • Mom Is Done!

    After 2 1/2 long years of studying, writing papers, sleepless nights, countless pots of coffee, and hard work I have finished college. Although the announcements came a week ago and I turned in my final paper last Saturday, it just didn’t seem real to me until the knock on my door at 7:00 pm tonight. Who could it be? Ah, the FedEx man with a package. As I tore open the box with excitement I found myself suddenly in shock. Is this really mine? Did I really do this?

    Yes, Yes I did! I had a goal and I finished it. In exactly one month I will proudly wear this cap, gown, and stole in a commencement ceremony where I will be awarded my Bachelor of Science in Psychology. As with most things I do, I could not have completed this without the love and support of my family and friends. All the times I wanted to quit and all the times I questioned myself as to why I was doing this, these people supported me and encouraged me to keep going.

    Thinking back, I gave up many things (mostly a life outside of work and school), but nobody gave up more than Dylan. This small boy who was only in kindergarten when I started gave up so much of himself so that I could do my homework. I feel like I missed out on so much quality time with him, but I know that making up for that lost time will be so much fun!